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The Case Against Settling

Ok, I admit it. I lost my mojo. I started 2010 off with a bang and a long list of mantras like “I’m all in to win in 2010!” I was genuinely excited about the possibilities the new year had to offer. And then life happened. I was working twice as hard for half the money. My efforts to conserve money were upset by necessary car and house repairs. A potential client fell through. And on top of that, I was facing another birthday and my dating prospects seemed to be evaporating before my eyes! Here it was only two and a half months into the new year, and I felt like my New Year’s Resolutions were a bust. Maybe it was time just to get realistic about my life. That’s right – time to settle.

In “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough,” author Lori Gottlieb encourages women to throw out their lists of must haves and to take a more realistic approach to finding Mr. Right.   While I must admit that being realistic about certain things is a necessary part of life, I must argue against this notion of “settling.”  No one who has ever achieved greatness has ever settled for good enough.   It was probably “good enough” to be able to exchange information with people when you ran into them on the street or in church.  But it’s GREAT to be able to pick up the phone and call someone to let them know how you’re doing – thank goodness Alexander Graham Bell didn’t settle.   It was “good enough” to board a ship  to sail for days to a foreign land.   But it’s GREAT to be able to board a plane and be there in a matter of hours – thank goodness the Wright Brothers didn’t settle.  It’s probably “good enough” if I keep my head down, go to a job that pays a decent wage, and go out with any man that’s breathing, but how GREAT is it to stand tall, work on a business that I’d love to do even if I wasn’t getting paid for it, and date guys who are intelligent, purpose-driven, and fun to be with?

So, I’ve decided to stay the course and keep believing and dreaming.  I’ve got my mojo back.  I’m once again all in to win in 2010!  And I refuse to settle.


1 comment to The Case Against Settling

  • Hey Kara, I am with you all the way! I’ve been reading an awesome essay by Ralph Waldo Emerson called “Self Reliance” which supports your mantra. He pushes the notion of following your innermost heart, mind and conviction over popular wisdom. I too am working harder than ever for a fraction of my past earnings – this was not by choice (of course!) but instead of rushing back into the corporate fray I’m taking a detour which I believe will lead to financial success and – more importantly – a GREAT and happy life!

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